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刘翔的百米成绩
发贴日期：
2007-09-02 [ 18人评论过 ]
在110米栏上，刘翔站在世界之巅，撤去这些“障碍物”的话，刘翔百米的平跑成绩又是多少？据上海田径队领队孙杰透露：“刘翔的百米速度差不多在10秒 30-40之间，最好的时候能在10秒20-30之间，”虽然这一成绩在国内也是非常不错的，但很难称雄国内赛场，十运会新科百米冠军龚伟的成绩就是10 秒21，带伤上阵并获得亚军的胡凯，成绩也有10秒31。难怪龚伟敢说，“和刘翔比百米，跑一百次我赢一百次。”
22日晚，刘翔在十运会4×100米决赛，刘翔“客串”第四棒，上海队的前两棒跑得并不好，不过当第三棒杨耀祖接过棒后，他的弯道技术发挥得很不错，一下越到前两位，甚至在同刘翔交接棒时，一度排在第一位。这最后一棒交得不算完美。刘翔启动得有些早了，而那个时候杨耀祖已经开始减速，刘翔只能慢下来回头拿棒，幸好主要对手广西队的交接也不是非常成功，刘翔利用自己惊人的爆发力在前20米领先广西队最后一棒龚伟。不过龚伟不愧是十运“飞人”，途中跑超越了刘翔，最终广西队以39秒41夺冠，上海队39秒65屈居亚军。
孙杰估计：“今晚刘翔应该就在10秒30-40左右，发挥出了正常水平。”其实，刘翔小时候练过100米，那时候他还在区少体校，练得是跳高，100米作为副项。
从技术动作来看，刘翔跑百米还有些“跨栏”动作，总是一跳一跳。田管中心副主任冯树勇介绍说：“跨栏与短跑区别相当大。刘翔的110米栏，要跨过 10个栏架，三步一跨栏，速度低很多，最高速度不超过每秒10米。而短跑就完全不同，刘翔速度好，可达到每秒11.5米。”杜库里的百米成绩也不错。今年赫尔辛基世锦赛时，杜库里出任法国4×100接力队第一棒，结果以38秒08的今年世界最好成绩夺冠。据悉，杜库里的百米速度大概在10秒20左右。
22日晚，刘翔在十运会4×100米决赛，刘翔“客串”第四棒，上海队的前两棒跑得并不好，不过当第三棒杨耀祖接过棒后，他的弯道技术发挥得很不错，一下越到前两位，甚至在同刘翔交接棒时，一度排在第一位。这最后一棒交得不算完美。刘翔启动得有些早了，而那个时候杨耀祖已经开始减速，刘翔只能慢下来回头拿棒，幸好主要对手广西队的交接也不是非常成功，刘翔利用自己惊人的爆发力在前20米领先广西队最后一棒龚伟。不过龚伟不愧是十运“飞人”，途中跑超越了刘翔，最终广西队以39秒41夺冠，上海队39秒65屈居亚军。
孙杰估计：“今晚刘翔应该就在10秒30-40左右，发挥出了正常水平。”其实，刘翔小时候练过100米，那时候他还在区少体校，练得是跳高，100米作为副项。
从技术动作来看，刘翔跑百米还有些“跨栏”动作，总是一跳一跳。田管中心副主任冯树勇介绍说：“跨栏与短跑区别相当大。刘翔的110米栏，要跨过 10个栏架，三步一跨栏，速度低很多，最高速度不超过每秒10米。而短跑就完全不同，刘翔速度好，可达到每秒11.5米。”杜库里的百米成绩也不错。今年赫尔辛基世锦赛时，杜库里出任法国4×100接力队第一棒，结果以38秒08的今年世界最好成绩夺冠。据悉，杜库里的百米速度大概在10秒20左右。
scofield的男友很帅啊！
中华传统美食里面好像有很多垃圾食品
发贴日期：
2007-09-02 [ 2人评论过 ]
如果麦当劳炸鸡算垃圾食品的话，我们从小吃的菜就更是垃圾了，怎么大家还在吃呢？
那个海南和尚哪里值得崇拜了？
发贴日期：
2007-08-30 [ 20人评论过 ]
发现这里喜欢走极端的小p孩真多，那个和尚喜欢自己折磨自己，那是他自己的选择，这个世界上自虐的人多了，不要批个佛教的外衣就好像崇高得不得了一样，真正对人类有贡献的科学家艺术家没见你们怎么赞美，那么无聊的举动倒被弄得有多伟大似的。
马六版官方道歉，谢谢合作，抱歉！
发贴日期：
2007-08-26 [ 4人评论过 ]
各位关注此次事件的朋友：
就本此事件，我仅代表本版做出最后的申明，还各位一个平静和谐的环境，谢谢
首先说说次此事件的发生，是因为本版一次fb活动引起的。由于在高速上本次事件的另外一位主角悍马
不知道是有意还是无意的拉响了警报，造成了一些误解，导致了不少本版车辆围住了悍马，也许只是想提醒一下悍马车主。并且悍马车主也很友好的接受了。一件不愉快，最后演变成了一件比较有趣味的事情。事后双方都很友好，并且互相留下电话相约fb。双方都没有任何的计较。这本来是件大事化小的好事情。最后的结果也是大家都比较和谐的。并且此过程被纪念下来做为某位板油的出行日志，而并不是为某些人所谓的显摆得意如此！我恳请人们不要把自己的主观臆断一定强加给别人身上。
当然，在此次过程中，也造成了一定的影响，比如造成了车辆的积压等，这也确实是做的不对的地方。在平稳的交流下
这样的不当，我们为什么不会承认？我想肯定是会承认的！只是很不希望是在被无端的漫骂下而造成一种抵抗，取消了原本的善意和道歉。
简单阐述事情的经过是想告诉大家事情的双方都是很友好的，是想告诉那些局外人观望者事实的真相。对于一些fq和为恐天下不乱的人来说，什么样的解释都是狡辩，那么说了也白说。当然我所说的事情也不会是给他们看的。
对于此次事件，我想说的是，请各位保持好心态，做的不对的地方我们一定会接受批评和议论，但是请一些人不要用漫骂无知来议论，更不要上冈上线，这已经不是文化大革命了，那是倒退！我们也达不到那么高的高度，你太看的起了。什么抗日，屠杀，汉奸，这样的字眼不应该出现在一个纯粹的文化交流的bbs上。同样也会给那些并有参加此次事件的人造成烦恼。对于其他无辜的人们和马六车主。我们应该对他们表示歉意。
网络的交流正因为公平，才会有事情的发生时有人约束议论我们，同样我也请漫骂的双方能够停止幼稚的行为。我们可以交流可以辩论，但是不是象小丑一样的丢人，不要上升到什么政治高度，地区高度。开车的人不一定是好人，也不一定是坏人。不开车的也不一定是好人。也不一定是坏人。南京人也好其他地区的人也好，好人也好坏人也好，也不是你我说是怎么样就怎么样的。各位还注意一点吧。
最后，在这里，我们真诚的为次此事情造成的对任何人不愉快表示歉意，但是我们也同样不会接受任何人无知恶意的漫骂为此表示诚意，本人代表本版表态，我们板油不会在做出任何的漫骂攻击，请各位能够，平静的和谐的交流。别有用心的言语我们将删除，不再污染大家，我们都苛守自己的道德本质。如果觉得对骂就不是胆小的行为那就是太无知了。谢谢大家的合作。
就本此事件，我仅代表本版做出最后的申明，还各位一个平静和谐的环境，谢谢
首先说说次此事件的发生，是因为本版一次fb活动引起的。由于在高速上本次事件的另外一位主角悍马
不知道是有意还是无意的拉响了警报，造成了一些误解，导致了不少本版车辆围住了悍马，也许只是想提醒一下悍马车主。并且悍马车主也很友好的接受了。一件不愉快，最后演变成了一件比较有趣味的事情。事后双方都很友好，并且互相留下电话相约fb。双方都没有任何的计较。这本来是件大事化小的好事情。最后的结果也是大家都比较和谐的。并且此过程被纪念下来做为某位板油的出行日志，而并不是为某些人所谓的显摆得意如此！我恳请人们不要把自己的主观臆断一定强加给别人身上。
当然，在此次过程中，也造成了一定的影响，比如造成了车辆的积压等，这也确实是做的不对的地方。在平稳的交流下
这样的不当，我们为什么不会承认？我想肯定是会承认的！只是很不希望是在被无端的漫骂下而造成一种抵抗，取消了原本的善意和道歉。
简单阐述事情的经过是想告诉大家事情的双方都是很友好的，是想告诉那些局外人观望者事实的真相。对于一些fq和为恐天下不乱的人来说，什么样的解释都是狡辩，那么说了也白说。当然我所说的事情也不会是给他们看的。
对于此次事件，我想说的是，请各位保持好心态，做的不对的地方我们一定会接受批评和议论，但是请一些人不要用漫骂无知来议论，更不要上冈上线，这已经不是文化大革命了，那是倒退！我们也达不到那么高的高度，你太看的起了。什么抗日，屠杀，汉奸，这样的字眼不应该出现在一个纯粹的文化交流的bbs上。同样也会给那些并有参加此次事件的人造成烦恼。对于其他无辜的人们和马六车主。我们应该对他们表示歉意。
网络的交流正因为公平，才会有事情的发生时有人约束议论我们，同样我也请漫骂的双方能够停止幼稚的行为。我们可以交流可以辩论，但是不是象小丑一样的丢人，不要上升到什么政治高度，地区高度。开车的人不一定是好人，也不一定是坏人。不开车的也不一定是好人。也不一定是坏人。南京人也好其他地区的人也好，好人也好坏人也好，也不是你我说是怎么样就怎么样的。各位还注意一点吧。
最后，在这里，我们真诚的为次此事情造成的对任何人不愉快表示歉意，但是我们也同样不会接受任何人无知恶意的漫骂为此表示诚意，本人代表本版表态，我们板油不会在做出任何的漫骂攻击，请各位能够，平静的和谐的交流。别有用心的言语我们将删除，不再污染大家，我们都苛守自己的道德本质。如果觉得对骂就不是胆小的行为那就是太无知了。谢谢大家的合作。
史蒂夫·鲍尔默也用Firefox和Google
发贴日期：
2007-08-25 [ 8人评论过 ]
微软最耀眼的亿万富翁执行官史蒂夫·鲍尔默无意间透露出了一个秘密──连他自己也使用Firefox和Google. 在Effective Corporate Evildoings杂志对鲍尔默专访期间，鲍尔默声言，开放源代码就像一个四处乱贴财产标签的瘟疫。他随后打开了一个网站试图证实他的言论。采访他的记者吉恩·布兰斯顿见状便向他靠近了一些，想观察鲍尔默使用的浏览器和他的主页。 “我当时十分震惊，连采访的内容都差点忘掉了。”布兰斯顿后来回忆道。鲍尔默竟然使用Firefox作为浏览器──更令人惊讶的是他的主页是 Google！
布兰斯顿马上询问了鲍尔默，鲍尔默表示，这个浏览器是他的戴尔笔记本电脑预装的，而且他不知道怎么卸载，也不知道怎么更换主页，更不知道IE在哪（译者 注：典型的托词……）布兰斯顿一提起来，鲍尔默马上意识到了他的处境。他变得很不安，布兰斯顿描述他说：“他让我马上住口，否则就要给我点颜色看看。”
鲍尔默说，布兰斯顿当时对于他的浏览器选择过于关注，就像疯长的杂草把原野全都盖住了。
他还提到，他不久以后就会买一台Mac，并且要求在机器上安装最新 版的IE（译者注：IE for Mac不是早就不出了吗？），并将主页设为Live搜索（原文：Windows Live Office MSN Search）。
后记：在获悉这篇报道后，微软的公关部门告诉The Agency Blog，这个软件巨人的搜索引擎的正确名字应该是“Microsoft Vista Sharepoint Live Search”。“新的品牌彰显微软在网络产品中绝不马虎的态度。”一个公关部门的发言人指出。“哦，它还是绿色的，不要忘记标明啊……”我们故此加上了这一段。
布兰斯顿马上询问了鲍尔默，鲍尔默表示，这个浏览器是他的戴尔笔记本电脑预装的，而且他不知道怎么卸载，也不知道怎么更换主页，更不知道IE在哪（译者 注：典型的托词……）布兰斯顿一提起来，鲍尔默马上意识到了他的处境。他变得很不安，布兰斯顿描述他说：“他让我马上住口，否则就要给我点颜色看看。”
鲍尔默说，布兰斯顿当时对于他的浏览器选择过于关注，就像疯长的杂草把原野全都盖住了。
他还提到，他不久以后就会买一台Mac，并且要求在机器上安装最新 版的IE（译者注：IE for Mac不是早就不出了吗？），并将主页设为Live搜索（原文：Windows Live Office MSN Search）。
后记：在获悉这篇报道后，微软的公关部门告诉The Agency Blog，这个软件巨人的搜索引擎的正确名字应该是“Microsoft Vista Sharepoint Live Search”。“新的品牌彰显微软在网络产品中绝不马虎的态度。”一个公关部门的发言人指出。“哦，它还是绿色的，不要忘记标明啊……”我们故此加上了这一段。
Tips on Handling Beautiful Women
发贴日期：
2007-08-25 [ 1人评论过 ]
Tips on Handling Beautiful Women
by MrCasual
I've dated hundreds of women, and I want to humbly throw a tip or two on how to handle women with good looks. Believe me, if you say the wrong thing before getting to know them, you'll be done without even knowing what you did.
Follow these guidelines:
1. No matter how tempting, DON'T date a girl just for her looks. It's not enough. If she's fun and interesting, THEN consider it.
2. NEVER tell the girl how attractive she is until much later. Trust me, she'***een told this all her life. She'***ored with it, and she'***ORED WITH YOU if you go there, like every other schlup.
3. Turn the tables and BE CASUAL. Every other guy has come on like the puppy dog desperate for a deeper relationship. Don't even think about going there. Instead, keep it casual, light, playful, and with lots of deep conversation.
4. This is a time to concentrate on YOUR style, your life, and your strengths. She's going to go out with and stay with you if you have a lot to offer.
5. Style. This is the great equalizer. You may not have Brad Pitt looks, but if you have Nic Cage style, you're good. Think of Cage. He's got a more personal style than anyone in the movies. Charm, wit, depth, personality, offbeat humor, personal dressing style, uniqueness, tenderness, and above all, confidence and toughness.
6. If the looks issue comes up, handle it like this: usually ignore it, but when she says something like "I'm having a bad hair day" ... turn the tables! AGREE with her. This is the time for the cocky/funny thing. Tell her, "When haven't you had a bad hair day?" It demonstrates that you're playful, witty, and that her looks are secondary to your budding friendship.
by MrCasual
I've dated hundreds of women, and I want to humbly throw a tip or two on how to handle women with good looks. Believe me, if you say the wrong thing before getting to know them, you'll be done without even knowing what you did.
Follow these guidelines:
1. No matter how tempting, DON'T date a girl just for her looks. It's not enough. If she's fun and interesting, THEN consider it.
2. NEVER tell the girl how attractive she is until much later. Trust me, she'***een told this all her life. She'***ored with it, and she'***ORED WITH YOU if you go there, like every other schlup.
3. Turn the tables and BE CASUAL. Every other guy has come on like the puppy dog desperate for a deeper relationship. Don't even think about going there. Instead, keep it casual, light, playful, and with lots of deep conversation.
4. This is a time to concentrate on YOUR style, your life, and your strengths. She's going to go out with and stay with you if you have a lot to offer.
5. Style. This is the great equalizer. You may not have Brad Pitt looks, but if you have Nic Cage style, you're good. Think of Cage. He's got a more personal style than anyone in the movies. Charm, wit, depth, personality, offbeat humor, personal dressing style, uniqueness, tenderness, and above all, confidence and toughness.
6. If the looks issue comes up, handle it like this: usually ignore it, but when she says something like "I'm having a bad hair day" ... turn the tables! AGREE with her. This is the time for the cocky/funny thing. Tell her, "When haven't you had a bad hair day?" It demonstrates that you're playful, witty, and that her looks are secondary to your budding friendship.
Stop Going on So Many Restaurant Dates
发贴日期：
2007-08-22 [ 3人评论过 ]
Stop Going on So Many Restaurant Dates
by Jay
What is the typical first date?
I would guess about 90% of you would say either a movie or supper at a restaurant, which is indeed true. However, I have discovered in the last year another first date that beats these two in every single criterion:
The YOU-cook-for-HER-at-YOUR-place date.
Here is how I go about it...
Whenever I talk with a woman and am interested in asking her out on a date, I smoothly change the conversation to food/cooking. Say something like "I'd love to cook for you, but you'd have to clean the dishes!" (of course, with a smile!).
Always plan something for after the dinner -- this makes her comfortable with the idea of coming to your place. This is the time to go to the movie theater or anything that makes you exit your apartment/house! Most girls will be impressed that you are confident enough to cook for her without expecting any dirty "favors" in return. Knowing this, she will, in most cases, say yes. (If not, she might not be interested or might want another type of date.)
Bringing her to your place is not all, guys -- this is where you need to show her your skills.
Before she arrives, clean your place. Have it smell like oranges, buy potpourri (I'm serious!), have an immaculate bathroom, make your bed, etc. You can put any type of music (or none at all), but not Barry White (that is a you-want-***-from-her detector for women!) lol.
Buy a red wine, baguette bread, some mozzarella cheese, Italian prosciutto, strawberries, chocolate and pasta if you don't have any. Prepare entrees with the bread, mozzarella and prosciutto, serving wine while it heats up. Then, prepare a lasagna or any specialty of yours (Italian food is soooooo easy, cheap and good) and serve it on heated plates.
Afterwards, prepare chocolate fondue with your favorite fruits (strawberries are a must, they are programmed in women'***rain to make them attracted to you, lol).
You can of course change this up, but I can tell you by experience, a supper like this will cost me about $15, probably 1/5 of the restaurant cost, and without all the fuss about who pays....
I suggest not to go overboard (caviar, 100$ bottle of wine, etc.) because this comes off a bit strong (and expensive for you, without added value), like if this first date is a huge deal for you (it shouldn't be!).
The night will show her your skills and your class. You should end up above at least 95% of the guys she's dated, and you'll know about it! Expect to hear words such as "sophisticated", "classy", "charming", etc.).
So if you were able to get good vibes with her, you can expect things to go well. Being the DJ that you are, you can judge to see if going out afterwards is absolutely necessary (I normally do) or if watching a home-movie is good. (Alway***e prepared though... a good movie, condoms, a new toothbrush and towel for her, etc.)
Worst off, you're $15 in the hole with a good meal in your stomach.
Try this out at least once; it's good for your wallet and your love life. And remember, girls talk between themselves; this can be a reputation-builder!
Hope this helps you as much as you guys help me!
by Jay
What is the typical first date?
I would guess about 90% of you would say either a movie or supper at a restaurant, which is indeed true. However, I have discovered in the last year another first date that beats these two in every single criterion:
The YOU-cook-for-HER-at-YOUR-place date.
Here is how I go about it...
Whenever I talk with a woman and am interested in asking her out on a date, I smoothly change the conversation to food/cooking. Say something like "I'd love to cook for you, but you'd have to clean the dishes!" (of course, with a smile!).
Always plan something for after the dinner -- this makes her comfortable with the idea of coming to your place. This is the time to go to the movie theater or anything that makes you exit your apartment/house! Most girls will be impressed that you are confident enough to cook for her without expecting any dirty "favors" in return. Knowing this, she will, in most cases, say yes. (If not, she might not be interested or might want another type of date.)
Bringing her to your place is not all, guys -- this is where you need to show her your skills.
Before she arrives, clean your place. Have it smell like oranges, buy potpourri (I'm serious!), have an immaculate bathroom, make your bed, etc. You can put any type of music (or none at all), but not Barry White (that is a you-want-***-from-her detector for women!) lol.
Buy a red wine, baguette bread, some mozzarella cheese, Italian prosciutto, strawberries, chocolate and pasta if you don't have any. Prepare entrees with the bread, mozzarella and prosciutto, serving wine while it heats up. Then, prepare a lasagna or any specialty of yours (Italian food is soooooo easy, cheap and good) and serve it on heated plates.
Afterwards, prepare chocolate fondue with your favorite fruits (strawberries are a must, they are programmed in women'***rain to make them attracted to you, lol).
You can of course change this up, but I can tell you by experience, a supper like this will cost me about $15, probably 1/5 of the restaurant cost, and without all the fuss about who pays....
I suggest not to go overboard (caviar, 100$ bottle of wine, etc.) because this comes off a bit strong (and expensive for you, without added value), like if this first date is a huge deal for you (it shouldn't be!).
The night will show her your skills and your class. You should end up above at least 95% of the guys she's dated, and you'll know about it! Expect to hear words such as "sophisticated", "classy", "charming", etc.).
So if you were able to get good vibes with her, you can expect things to go well. Being the DJ that you are, you can judge to see if going out afterwards is absolutely necessary (I normally do) or if watching a home-movie is good. (Alway***e prepared though... a good movie, condoms, a new toothbrush and towel for her, etc.)
Worst off, you're $15 in the hole with a good meal in your stomach.
Try this out at least once; it's good for your wallet and your love life. And remember, girls talk between themselves; this can be a reputation-builder!
Hope this helps you as much as you guys help me!
Don\'t Ask
发贴日期：
2007-08-22 [ 6人评论过 ]
Don't Ask
by Cynetix
Whenever you are making a move or advancing the relationship, DON'T ASK!
You need to be assertive and stay in control. For every question you could ask, you can be assertive and use a statement instead.
Examples:
"What's your home phone number?"
...should be
"Let's exchange numbers so we can go get that cup of coffee."
(If you prefer not to "exchange" numbers, then tell her to give it to you.)
"Can you go out this weekend?"
and
"Do you want to go ice skating?"
...should be
"Hey, let's go ice skating this Thursday or Friday."
In short, every "can you" and "do you want to" and "I was wondering if you" needs to be abolished from your vocabulary! Make statements - don't ask questions.
What is the point of this tip?
It's so you can get used to being assertive. Simple changes in words have a powerful effect -- and not only does it affect those you speak to, but it helps you understand where the control lies. It lies with you.
And you'll get turned down a lot less.
Guaranteed!
by Cynetix
Whenever you are making a move or advancing the relationship, DON'T ASK!
You need to be assertive and stay in control. For every question you could ask, you can be assertive and use a statement instead.
Examples:
"What's your home phone number?"
...should be
"Let's exchange numbers so we can go get that cup of coffee."
(If you prefer not to "exchange" numbers, then tell her to give it to you.)
"Can you go out this weekend?"
and
"Do you want to go ice skating?"
...should be
"Hey, let's go ice skating this Thursday or Friday."
In short, every "can you" and "do you want to" and "I was wondering if you" needs to be abolished from your vocabulary! Make statements - don't ask questions.
What is the point of this tip?
It's so you can get used to being assertive. Simple changes in words have a powerful effect -- and not only does it affect those you speak to, but it helps you understand where the control lies. It lies with you.
And you'll get turned down a lot less.
Guaranteed!
The Purpose of the First and Second Dates
发贴日期：
2007-08-22 [ 11人评论过 ]
The Purpose of the First and Second Dates
by Ivan Appleton
I'm going to give you some great advice here, like nothing else you've read on this site. Read and think about it carefully.
The purpose (to the woman) of the first and second date are different. I'm assuming you've made a date, just a simple meeting for coffee or something similar. Because she's accepted a date, it means you are physically attractive enough to her for her to go out with her.
Now she wants to find out other things about you and find what potential you have for her. Being physically attractive enough to be acceptable for a date doesn't mean you are (yet) boyfriend material. She has to check you out.
The purpose of the first date is very simple. It's just to see if she can get along with you. Can you chat together? Are you interested in what she has to say? Are you interested (or at least show an interest) in the things that interest her.
You make small talk, you talk about music, movies, leisure activities and things like that. Just "getting to know you" stuff. Because you are already OK looking to her, and because all she wants to find out is if you get along together, there is no reason to try and impress her with anything else.
At the end just say that you enjoyed talking with her and say goodbye. Don't try to set up a second date.
The next day just call to say how much you enjoyed meeting her and that you'd like to do it again sometime. If she's positive then tell her you'll call again in a few days to set things up. A few days later, do call her, and set up the second date (lunch or something similar).
Now, here is the crucial bit.
by Ivan Appleton
I'm going to give you some great advice here, like nothing else you've read on this site. Read and think about it carefully.
The purpose (to the woman) of the first and second date are different. I'm assuming you've made a date, just a simple meeting for coffee or something similar. Because she's accepted a date, it means you are physically attractive enough to her for her to go out with her.
Now she wants to find out other things about you and find what potential you have for her. Being physically attractive enough to be acceptable for a date doesn't mean you are (yet) boyfriend material. She has to check you out.
The purpose of the first date is very simple. It's just to see if she can get along with you. Can you chat together? Are you interested in what she has to say? Are you interested (or at least show an interest) in the things that interest her.
You make small talk, you talk about music, movies, leisure activities and things like that. Just "getting to know you" stuff. Because you are already OK looking to her, and because all she wants to find out is if you get along together, there is no reason to try and impress her with anything else.
At the end just say that you enjoyed talking with her and say goodbye. Don't try to set up a second date.
The next day just call to say how much you enjoyed meeting her and that you'd like to do it again sometime. If she's positive then tell her you'll call again in a few days to set things up. A few days later, do call her, and set up the second date (lunch or something similar).
Now, here is the crucial bit.
How to Ask a Girl Out on a Date
发贴日期：
2007-08-22 [ 12人评论过 ]
How to Ask a Girl Out on a Date
by Thundercat
Question:
What and when are the best time and way to ask a girl for a date? A lot of my friends tell me that the best way is to become a friend with her at first and then to try to "deepen" the relationship. But what I do is when I meet a girl that I am interested in, I ask her out if not immediately, I do it the day after. And I always get rejected.
What do u think?
Ivan
Response:
Hi Ivan,
Well, there's a definite school of thought for both sides of that argument. In a way, I think it's a loaded question. But I'll try to answer it the best I can.
What this really depends on is the type of girl you're going after and the manner in which you ask her out.
So we'll tackle the first part now:
The Type Of Girl
Okay, now when I say "type of girl," I'm not talking about who she is (blonde, brunette, 5'7 tall, etc.). I'm talking about how INTO you she is.
See, if a girl likes you, it doesn't matter when you ask her out. She's going to say YES.
But if she's on the fence, ambivalent to you, or maybe not all that attracted to you (yet), she may need a little more time for you to "work your magic" on her before she'll agree to go out with you.
So before you ask a girl out, try to figure out where she's at on the "I'm Into You" spectrum. It WILL affect your outcome.
Now onto the second part:
by Thundercat
Question:
What and when are the best time and way to ask a girl for a date? A lot of my friends tell me that the best way is to become a friend with her at first and then to try to "deepen" the relationship. But what I do is when I meet a girl that I am interested in, I ask her out if not immediately, I do it the day after. And I always get rejected.
What do u think?
Ivan
Response:
Hi Ivan,
Well, there's a definite school of thought for both sides of that argument. In a way, I think it's a loaded question. But I'll try to answer it the best I can.
What this really depends on is the type of girl you're going after and the manner in which you ask her out.
So we'll tackle the first part now:
The Type Of Girl
Okay, now when I say "type of girl," I'm not talking about who she is (blonde, brunette, 5'7 tall, etc.). I'm talking about how INTO you she is.
See, if a girl likes you, it doesn't matter when you ask her out. She's going to say YES.
But if she's on the fence, ambivalent to you, or maybe not all that attracted to you (yet), she may need a little more time for you to "work your magic" on her before she'll agree to go out with you.
So before you ask a girl out, try to figure out where she's at on the "I'm Into You" spectrum. It WILL affect your outcome.
Now onto the second part:
Sharing 25 Years of Dating Wisdom
发贴日期：
2007-08-22 [ 9人评论过 ]
Sharing 25 Years of Dating Wisdom
by The Unknown Don
A few days ago I turned 40 and tonight I was just thinking about past relationships... the things that went right, the things that went wrong, and the outright disasters.
A little background. I'm a reasonably well-off, college-educated white male, 6'0" in good shape. I've been married once for 5 years, divorced for 3. I went through my AFC (wussy) phase in my late teens, but I was fortunate enough to snap out of it by the time I was 20. From then on it was smooth sailing.
I've been reading many of the articles and message threads here. I agree with quite a bit, but I think there are some areas that need a little fleshing out and amplification. So I'd like to share some of my observations in no particular order:
1) No matter how good-looking a woman is, she will alway***ecome boring (particularly ***ually) with time. The boredom accelerates if the relationship becomes domestic (living together, marriage, etc.).
2) Men remain in boring relationships out of sentimentality or financial convenience... but rarely fear.
3) Over the long run, the periods that men are without a partner and frustrated are generally happier than being stuck in a relationship which has lost its luster.
4) Women generally do the selecting in the earliest phases of a relationship. Once a woman has committed herself emotionally, the balance of power shifts to the man (assuming he has some degree of self-confidence).
5) Contrary to the myth that "looks don't matter" to women, physical attraction may be the primary and key deciding factor for a woman. However, it is difficult to determine just what will be physically attractive to any particular female. Even though men also value looks, they are far more willing to initially compromise on looks in the pursuit of ***.
6) If a woman is initially physically attracted to a man, there is very little he can do wrong on a first date.
7) If a woman is not initially physically attracted to a man, there is very little he can do right on a first date.
8) Always pay attention to a woman's actions. If she says she likes you but will not respond to kissing or touching, then she doesn't like you. Move on immediately.
9) Just like there are many men who are simply assholes, the same goes for women. If a woman is rude or inconsiderate in the first few dates, move on immediately -- it will not get better with time.
10) Any strange psychological problems, drug problems or baggage... move on immediately -- it will not get better with time.
by The Unknown Don
A few days ago I turned 40 and tonight I was just thinking about past relationships... the things that went right, the things that went wrong, and the outright disasters.
A little background. I'm a reasonably well-off, college-educated white male, 6'0" in good shape. I've been married once for 5 years, divorced for 3. I went through my AFC (wussy) phase in my late teens, but I was fortunate enough to snap out of it by the time I was 20. From then on it was smooth sailing.
I've been reading many of the articles and message threads here. I agree with quite a bit, but I think there are some areas that need a little fleshing out and amplification. So I'd like to share some of my observations in no particular order:
1) No matter how good-looking a woman is, she will alway***ecome boring (particularly ***ually) with time. The boredom accelerates if the relationship becomes domestic (living together, marriage, etc.).
2) Men remain in boring relationships out of sentimentality or financial convenience... but rarely fear.
3) Over the long run, the periods that men are without a partner and frustrated are generally happier than being stuck in a relationship which has lost its luster.
4) Women generally do the selecting in the earliest phases of a relationship. Once a woman has committed herself emotionally, the balance of power shifts to the man (assuming he has some degree of self-confidence).
5) Contrary to the myth that "looks don't matter" to women, physical attraction may be the primary and key deciding factor for a woman. However, it is difficult to determine just what will be physically attractive to any particular female. Even though men also value looks, they are far more willing to initially compromise on looks in the pursuit of ***.
6) If a woman is initially physically attracted to a man, there is very little he can do wrong on a first date.
7) If a woman is not initially physically attracted to a man, there is very little he can do right on a first date.
8) Always pay attention to a woman's actions. If she says she likes you but will not respond to kissing or touching, then she doesn't like you. Move on immediately.
9) Just like there are many men who are simply assholes, the same goes for women. If a woman is rude or inconsiderate in the first few dates, move on immediately -- it will not get better with time.
10) Any strange psychological problems, drug problems or baggage... move on immediately -- it will not get better with time.
The Killer Dating Mistake... and How to Avoid It
发贴日期：
2007-08-22 [ 4人评论过 ]
The Killer Dating Mistake... and How to Avoid It
by Mick Jones
Once you are good at meeting women online, or anywhere for that matter... the next step is to be able to qualify the lady quickly. By qualify I mean to decide whether to see her again and allow her into your life. This is a very important skill for many reasons.
Here is the Killer Mistake a lot of men make:
They spend too much time with a woman they should have "disqualified" 20 minutes after they met her. Mainly because they're glad to meet any woman who shows an interest in them.
What's the best way to avoid the pain and hassle of a bad partner?
To be able to disqualify a future partner! Not easy I know.
See, the men that are good with women, don't waste their time and energy on someone they instinctively know is going to be trouble. These guys have good qualifying skills, being able to move on quickly from un-responsive or unsuitable women. Then spending their time with only highly qualified dates.
This is effective time management for producing the best results!
So how do you qualify you ask?
by Mick Jones
Once you are good at meeting women online, or anywhere for that matter... the next step is to be able to qualify the lady quickly. By qualify I mean to decide whether to see her again and allow her into your life. This is a very important skill for many reasons.
Here is the Killer Mistake a lot of men make:
They spend too much time with a woman they should have "disqualified" 20 minutes after they met her. Mainly because they're glad to meet any woman who shows an interest in them.
What's the best way to avoid the pain and hassle of a bad partner?
To be able to disqualify a future partner! Not easy I know.
See, the men that are good with women, don't waste their time and energy on someone they instinctively know is going to be trouble. These guys have good qualifying skills, being able to move on quickly from un-responsive or unsuitable women. Then spending their time with only highly qualified dates.
This is effective time management for producing the best results!
So how do you qualify you ask?
How to Get Women to Approach YOU!
发贴日期：
2007-08-22 [ 9人评论过 ]
How to Get Women to Approach YOU!
by Thundercat
I think you're really going to like this article, because I'm going to share a little trick with you that I've developed that really makes it easy to meet a woman.
Too often, guys are simply too nervous to approach a girl because of the extreme amount of uncertainty involved.
Think about it. What runs through your head when you want to meet a woman?
"Am I her type?"
"Does she have a boyfriend?"
"Will she find me attractive?"
"Maybe she's too busy to meet anyone."
"Will she be receptive to me talking to her?"
I'm sure you can think of a 100 more things that run through your mind when you see an approach opportunity comes your way.
If you get scared or nervous when this happens, it'***ecause of one thing:
UNCERTAINTY.
You don't know how the girl you want to approach is going to respond! So your scared because the outcome MIGHT be negative!
Well, worry about this no more, because with this little trick I'm going to share with you, you'll never have to worry about a negative reaction again.
This little trick is so simple, ANYONE can do it! And it's a 100% fear free tactic.
Ready for it? Good, because here it comes...
by Thundercat
I think you're really going to like this article, because I'm going to share a little trick with you that I've developed that really makes it easy to meet a woman.
Too often, guys are simply too nervous to approach a girl because of the extreme amount of uncertainty involved.
Think about it. What runs through your head when you want to meet a woman?
"Am I her type?"
"Does she have a boyfriend?"
"Will she find me attractive?"
"Maybe she's too busy to meet anyone."
"Will she be receptive to me talking to her?"
I'm sure you can think of a 100 more things that run through your mind when you see an approach opportunity comes your way.
If you get scared or nervous when this happens, it'***ecause of one thing:
UNCERTAINTY.
You don't know how the girl you want to approach is going to respond! So your scared because the outcome MIGHT be negative!
Well, worry about this no more, because with this little trick I'm going to share with you, you'll never have to worry about a negative reaction again.
This little trick is so simple, ANYONE can do it! And it's a 100% fear free tactic.
Ready for it? Good, because here it comes...
Does She Have a Boyfriend?
发贴日期：
2007-08-22 [ 10人评论过 ]
Does She Have a Boyfriend?
by Perry Rose
As long as I have been a syndicated writer for singles on dating, for the life of me I cannot understand why so many men simply can't ask a woman, "Do you have a boyfriend?" It's as if he will be perceived as weak or something. Do you think it is? I got a little bit of news for you…IT ISN'T! You think that, not the women. It's an assumption that's all wrong.
Your buddy may say, "Well, just ask her out. Why do you even have to ask her if she has one?"
I already know what you're thinking: "Well, then I will feel really awkward if she does have one."
Ok, if you can't seem to get over this little hump, you can try interjecting a question into the conversation, like, "What does your boyfriend think about that?" or, "Is your boyfriend here? I don't want to get you into trouble?" and then give her a big smile.
by Perry Rose
As long as I have been a syndicated writer for singles on dating, for the life of me I cannot understand why so many men simply can't ask a woman, "Do you have a boyfriend?" It's as if he will be perceived as weak or something. Do you think it is? I got a little bit of news for you…IT ISN'T! You think that, not the women. It's an assumption that's all wrong.
Your buddy may say, "Well, just ask her out. Why do you even have to ask her if she has one?"
I already know what you're thinking: "Well, then I will feel really awkward if she does have one."
Ok, if you can't seem to get over this little hump, you can try interjecting a question into the conversation, like, "What does your boyfriend think about that?" or, "Is your boyfriend here? I don't want to get you into trouble?" and then give her a big smile.